We can complain about it all day long, but if nobody in the church teaches that it's wrong, how are kids to know? Years ago my husband and I talked to our pastor who was lamenting that a long-time family had left the congregation because he wouldn't marry their son because he was living with his fiancee. I asked the pastor, "and when did the church teach him this was wrong? If we don't teach children and teens what the church teaches (and WHY), how can we be surprised when this happens?" While usually very considerate of his parishioners, he had honestly never thought about this ... and THAT is the problem.